Live tonight, we'll find out where all the eligible men have gone, and I'll go shopping with the girls.
It's very expensive to look glamorous all the time.
We'll meet a gentleman and a scoundrel, and try out some new positions.
Hello and welcome to Sex Life.
When we take photographs of our friends and family, usually they're only shown to other friends and family.
Later in the show, we'll meet some men and women who not only send their snapshots to national magazines,
but in them, we're no more than just a smile.
But first, sex and sport. Can performing one affect your performance at the other?
Chris Hill has been snooping around.
This is Ray Borna's place. Ray's the captain of the Canberra Cannons basketball team.
He's been away competing in the Olympics, but he's back home now,
all fired up and frantically preparing for a big NBL game tonight.
Actually, Ray's got the place to himself at the moment, because his boys and his wife Wendy are still in the States.
So who's working the bedspreads?
I'm out the back, Chris.
Just trying to get my rhythm right for the game.
Normally, Razor Ray loves to have sex before a big one.
It relaxes him, and he's a laid-back sort of lad.
The night before the game, it certainly doesn't worry me,
and even the morning of the game, because we're playing of a late evening now,
it doesn't worry us that much.
Sex before sport didn't really faze me. I enjoyed it.
Paul the Pit Bull Grimmer was all set to have a crack at the World Kickboxing title last year,
but three months before the fight, he suffered a severe brain hemorrhage.
Though lucky to be alive, Paul's lifelong ambition was frustrated.
Not that the man's any stranger to frustration.
What I used to do was two weeks before about, I'd move into my gym.
I'd stay away from the woman I love.
Paul's a graduate of the Muhammad Ali School of Celebacy Before Sport.
In his prime, Ali claimed to go without sex for six weeks prior to a punch-up,
so the frustration fuelled his aggression.
Similarly deprived, Paul found he got a great deal of satisfaction punching his opponents in the ring.
Sex was a personal thing to me.
A psychological thing.
A psychological thing.
He kept me away from the girl I loved for two weeks, so he's going to pay.
Bad luck to be a boxer, eh? I'd rather be a basketballer and do it whenever you want.
To be, as in bonk, or not to be, as in bonk, that is the question.
And you'd think in this day and age when every conceivable factor is scientifically woven into an athlete's preparation,
we'd have the answer to that one.
Well, we don't.
Fact is, only a handful of attempts have been made to quantify the impact of sexual activity on athletic performance,
and all of those results have been duds, inconclusive.
You certainly read a lot of anecdotal reports,
and I guess the most unusual one is that of an American track athlete who is said to have either set a world record
or won an Olympic gold medal soon after masturbation.
Stretching the imagination is something Dr Fallon leaves to others.
A senior lecturer at our Institute of Sport, he's inclined to question the courting process rather than the act of sex itself.
The things that may impair performance the next day are more likely to be the socialising,
the perhaps excessive drinking, spending too much time on the dance floor,
and the lack of sleep that might be consequent upon lovemaking the night before.
There's one occasion that I remember very well where I partook in a fairly serious session prior to the game,
and the rest of the game I was just dead-legged and I couldn't jump at all.
But while my wife's away, I've got all I've got to say.
We're about half an hour away from our venue, and I drive...
Whether it's that enforced abstinence or the approaching contest,
Ray is definitely a tad toey as he guides the big kahuna toward the game.
It'd have to be a chick magnet, wouldn't it?
Yeah, the girls like it.
You see them occasionally looking, and not that I would give them the eye back.
I'm a happily married man. My wife's happy, and I'm married.
As for Paul, well, after the hemorrhage, he set his sights on training a future world champion.
And Rob here could be his man.
As a coach, do you apply those same standards to your students?
I just say, you know, if you're going to do the deed,
don't be up till five in the morning doing the deed the day before the fight,
because it's going to sap you of your energy.
But apart from that, honestly, it's not my business to tell a fighter
what he can and can't do or when or when he can't bonk.
At least Paul needn't worry about his protege's nocturnal activities the night before.
My wife won't let me have it. She says, no, you've got to keep your energy for the fight, so...
You're happy with that? Yeah. Yeah, I'm fine with that.
Yeah, as long as it's still there for me when I get out of the ring, yeah.
Welcome back to the basketball, folks.
And we're approaching the business end of the evening.
Woe betide any cannon that lets his willy get in the way of his work.
We certainly haven't had any problems, and I certainly haven't been in a situation
where players have come to me and said, look, I can't play because of this.
Well, we know Ray's not a contender for post-courtal complications tonight,
but with Wendy away, his routine has been broken.
And it remains to be seen if he can concentrate on the task at hand.
Ray, concentrate.
So let's get this straight. With sex before the game, Razor Ray makes the Olympics.
But without sex, he still carves them up.
Well, perhaps Ray was born a basketballer,
but most sports stars seem to advocate sticking to your routine before the game,
whether it's abstaining or going for it.
But don't hold out for an expert's opinion.
Personally, I've never had a good enough athletic performance
to determine whether it makes any difference to me or not.
Thumbs up on that one.
After the break, we'll trace the roots of our modern-day fascination for drag,
and we'll track down a rare species, the eligible man.
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Drag in the 90s is anything but a drag.
In recent years it's become the flavour of the month.
But men dressed as women have been part of theatre life for centuries.
So let's slip on our stilettos
and take a walk on the wild side, past and present.
We live as boys during the day
and we dress up at night for our occupation
as cross-dressers, as drag queens.
And we do drag shows.
I think drag over the last few years with Priscilla
has become obviously widely accepted.
And the audience that we get now is a very mixed audience.
Brought it to the mainstream straight audience.
And they're inquiring.
They want to know what's going on.
They want to see the drag.
I think they thought the only drag you ever had
was in Lay Girls in King's Cross.
Yes, love, yes, love, yes.
He's never been to a drag show before.
Oh, it's so unusual.
Drag in the 90s has become big business.
Audiences now flock to drag venues
to experience a style of theatre once considered alternative.
Hi. Hi.
For the successful drag artists in the 90s,
it's a career rather than a lifestyle.
Thank you, you as well.
It's a performance for us.
It's a job as well.
I mean, we turn up for work, we put our face on,
we put our make-up on,
we finish at like 3am in the morning,
we take our make-up off and we go out for a drink.
That's boys.
These are photos of me in 1959 when I came to Australia.
I met this young Aboriginal guy about 20, about my age,
and he said to me,
why don't you come down to the wall and be a male prostitute with me?
And I never heard anything like this in my life
coming from the country farm.
Almost 40 years ago, Trevor arrived in Sydney.
He became Carmen,
and the 20-year-old New Zealander had a whole new career.
My first professional drag performance was in the Jewel Box,
and I got a job there working as an exotic dancer
and dancing with snakes.
I had two snakes, and I used to dance with them.
They were diamond snakes, and I used to dance with them,
and they just crawl all over your body
while you're dancing with the cymbals.
And I was very proud to say that I was the first New Zealander
and a female impersonator and drag queen
to dance with the snakes in King's Cross
in that late 50s and early 1960s era.
Despite his success in Sydney's King's Cross,
life was not as glamorous as the stage personality would have you believe.
All through those years, I was always getting beaten up,
given a good hiding by the cops for no reason at all.
I think it was simply because they were masochists and sadists,
and they just loved beating us up,
and it was very, very hard those days.
To be successful in drag in the 50s and 60s,
it wasn't enough just to dress like a woman.
People expected you to be a woman.
I classed myself as a transsexual.
I had the bass down, but I didn't have the sex change.
I was working in a gay hotel in Sydney
and dealing with drag queens on a day-to-day basis,
so I thought, didn't want to have anything to do with them.
They're all drunks.
Bubbles, the alter ego of 22-year-old Mark Ferguson,
soon changed his mind after his first attempt at drag 18 months ago.
A youngster whose star is on the rise,
he represents the new breed of drag performers.
He has no wish to either change his sex or to live as a woman.
It's my job. It's what I do.
I've always loved performing and acting
and being the ham and the class clown and so on.
Some of them choose as way of life, choose to be drag queens.
They live as women as well.
I personally don't.
When we brought the old and the new world of drag together,
we found it wasn't just the music that had changed over the years.
Boobs are different too.
Well, how much do jaws cost?
About $1,000.
Well, these are only $24.99 from Drag Bag.
$24? Oh, I'm always either too early or too late.
Well, so we can just take them off at the end of the night.
And throw them away. Isn't that a good idea?
Well, some things may be cheaper in the 90s,
but whether it be purely for the profession or for an entire lifestyle,
drag is high maintenance.
To find out how expensive, the girls and I went shopping.
How much would you spend on clothing, makeup, the works?
Because you look very glamorous and it must cost a fortune to keep it up.
Thank you. Too much money.
It's very expensive to look glamorous all the time.
Tell me about it.
Oh, you're just natural. No makeup at all.
I spend at a time about $300, $400 on makeup.
And clothing?
Every couple of months.
Clothing's different. You have to buy for shows and things like that.
You spend about $2,000 on a show.
Yeah, tax right off though, huh?
But how about your streetwear?
My streetwear? Well, this was made for me by a friend of mine,
the Diva Awards.
The Diva Awards are handed out on the drag industry's night of nights,
and there were more than just a few $2,000 frocks on display here.
Now, come on, get inside. You too.
Come with us.
On a night of heels, highs and hairspray,
when awards were given to the new generation of drag,
it was lovely to see the drag community honouring one
who's given a lifetime to her audience.
The Hall of Fame award goes to one and only, Carmen!
Thank you. Thank you.
Please put your hands together.
People tend to categorise us as, oh, you're wearing women's clothing,
but you think, well, not really. No woman walks around dressed like us.
Well, Joan Collins does.
She's an exception. Elizabeth Taylor.
Elizabeth Taylor, yes.
Now, I won't dispute the fact that there are plenty of good-looking guys out there,
and I know that there are loads of talented, successful guys,
but to find a guy that's good-looking, talented, successful and single
can be an absolute nightmare.
Now, the great female complaint is that rare breed,
the eligible bachelor, is becoming extinct.
Jodie Young goes on the hunt.
How many times have you said or heard said...
All the good guys are either married or gay.
Now, with 49% of the population being male and 51% being female,
statistically, we're pretty even.
I mean, for every taken man, there has to be a taken woman.
So why is it that so many single women are lamenting the lack of single men?
I mean, if there are any good guys left, I don't know where to find them.
Gina Johnson, editor of Clio magazine, knows exactly where they are.
In fact, it's her job to find them.
Every year, we put together a list of 50 most eligible bachelors, as you know,
and it's become quite a renowned event.
And it's not simply just the 50 most eligible bachelors in the country.
We start off with a list of hundreds, literally hundreds,
and so they're definitely out there,
and it's a culling process we actually get down to the top 50.
We managed to get together five such bachelors to find out why all the girls
are under the impression that all the guys are taken.
Well, they're not taken, but they're probably hard to take.
I think men are trapped in that biological, spreading-of-the-seed mentality
and can't see the worth of a good, long-term standing relationship.
No, I want a woman. I want, I guess what,
I want to meet somebody who I think is beautiful and full of love
and the whole nine yards.
I know what I like in a guy.
I mean, I like him to be funny and make me laugh and make good conversation.
I mean, someone that cares for you.
Now, according to our single guys,
that's just the sort of thing that gets up their noses,
having to conform to a woman's checklist.
She does the checklist on me, and she's out there in a flash.
Yeah, someone who likes my friends.
Somebody who's got cute friends.
Oh, yeah, that's really important.
Someone that doesn't wear gross underwear.
Oh, yeah, and it's not as slob and watches TV and footy all weekend.
The checklist is alive and well,
but I think it's more physical features than...
I mean, there are girls who are into the money thing,
but I mean, I think generally it's the physical thing.
I think that the perception of the archetypal nice guy
has changed so much over the years
that perhaps women are a little bit confused
as to what they should be looking for.
The women I speak to about this
say the older you get, the longer the checklist becomes.
You know, you've gone through,
you've experienced many different types of people,
and you start to do those checks and cross-references
and everything. That's what I said before.
You can actually see the end of something before it begins.
OK, so our checklist could be a problem for them,
but could it also be that these guys are quite happy to be single?
I'm not going to jump into a relationship
just for the sake of jumping into a relationship,
because you do and then you spend the next six months
trying to get out of it.
I'm not necessarily happy to stay single,
but I resigned.
I go through periods of resigning myself to being single.
So what you're saying is that men are almost frightened
of that sort of commitment, aren't they?
It's almost like, oh, my God, it's all over.
As soon as I find the perfect woman, my life's over.
Yeah, they fail to see the beautiful advantages there are
in a quality relationship
and then end up bouncing one to another,
looking for, it seems, physical relief
rather than mental and emotional satisfaction.
Men stay single because they fear death, basically,
and they see getting attached as,
while it might be sort of an ideal situation,
they think if they were to get attached and take it seriously,
then this would be the last time that's ever going to happen.
I mean, what am I meant to do?
I know, you just can't walk up to a guy and start talking to him.
That's right.
Well, our single guys would disagree with that.
They'd like us to stop complaining
and take the initiative for once.
Guys never, ever say no, or very rarely do men say no.
So, I mean, if a woman wants to make the first move,
she's got much less chance of being knocked back than a man has,
so he makes the first move.
I think, yeah, the 90s women should get out there and emmering us
and show that they are keen, the same amount as what we do.
What about if a girl was to make the first move?
Oh, excellent. What a stress reliever.
Fantastic. It suits me fine.
You see, girls, there are plenty of eligible men out there,
so don't just sit at home saying there aren't.
Be open-minded, throw away the checklist,
take a deep breath and make the first move.
OK, that guy's been looking at you all night.
I know.
Where are you going?
I'm going to go and talk to him.
Hello, girl.
Still to come on Sex Life,
some new positions to get you out of a rut
and a choice between the gentleman and the utter rotter.
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There are two types of guys in the world.
The first used to be referred to as
gentlemen, and now they're known as nice guys.
The second group used to be called
scoundrels, cadds, bounders.
They're now known by women as bastards.
But which do women really prefer?
Do they want somebody from the College of Cuddles,
or somebody from the school of treat them mean,
keep them keen?
Much of the mating game
is played out in bars like this.
Every night, women are suaved by bastards
and sweet-talked by nice guys.
But do they know a bastard when they meet one?
Someone who's completely arrogant,
self-absorbed.
They usually know what they want.
They usually come across as quiet.
They don't know what they want.
They usually come across as quite strong.
Someone who likes the chase.
Someone who wants to play hard to get.
Answer their own questions.
Wants you to be there and waiting for the phone call.
OK, so women can spot a bastard at 30 paces.
Unfortunately, that doesn't appear to be
any defence against their charms.
How many bastards have you been out with?
I've been with every bastard I can imagine.
I don't really like them,
but I have to say I am attracted to bastards.
Have you ever been out with a bastard?
Plenty of them.
Have you ever gone out with a bastard?
I lived with one for quite a few years.
Now, just in case you women need a rough guide
to nice guys and bastards,
here first is the nice guy
who makes an effort to enjoy all the things you do.
Billy's turned into a bastard.
No, not Billy. I used to really like him.
There he was.
Bastards don't really make much of an effort at all.
Oh, Melrose.
Oh, no, I didn't expect you.
Hey, the Locklear's quite nice, isn't she?
Yuck. Do you think I look fat in these pants?
No, you look fantastic in those pants.
You look gorgeous. They look great.
Nice guys will look at you through rose-coloured glasses.
No, they look great. Your butt looks fantastic.
Come on, honey, let's go.
Bastards tell it like it is.
Do you think I look really fat in these pants?
Yeah, well, you've definitely put on some weight,
but come on, we've got to go.
Nice guys love you, love your friends.
Hi, guys. Nice to meet you.
I've heard so much about you. How are you? James, you're a bank teller.
Charming. It must be fascinating and interesting work.
Oh, you know, it's OK.
Meeting people handing all that money every day.
Look, I'm really sorry. Mark shouldn't be too much longer.
Perhaps it's the traffic or something.
Sorry I'm late. Footie lasted a bit longer than I thought.
Um, this is James and Sarah.
James, how are you? Hi.
Hi, how are you? Um, James is a bank teller.
Oh, is he? How are you? Great. Cool.
What's for tea?
I made that really nice tofu dish.
Health food, yeah.
I've just actually had a hamburger, so I'll be all right.
So why, why do women fall for the bastards?
Sex and relationship columnist Ruth Ostrow, a bastard holic who settled down with a nice guy, has an interesting theory.
I think it very much boils down to how we're socialised.
We grew up with absent fathers. I mean, we all did, men and women.
But I think the way it affects women is that we keep craving for the absent father, for the man that's not there,
for the man that's, you know, daddy used to come home and he was busy,
and we'd want to get his attention and we'd put on these little performances.
So I think, you know, because of how we grew up, we still want to play that same game out with men.
But who's the winner in the end, the nice guy or the bastard?
I might think that I can tame them, but the fact that they're being bad to me keeps me there,
like keeps me, you know, going back for more and keeps me attracted to them.
Like if they're too nice, I kind of, oh, what a pushover.
Like I don't really pursue it any further.
I'd like to settle down with a nice guy.
But not with a bastard? No.
So I think bastards do win over all the time.
Yeah, I'm for a nice guy. I want a nice guy.
I always seem to go with the nice guys, but after 12 months I find it quite boring,
so I end up going for the arrogant, the chase.
Although maybe then I might lose out, but I find it more exciting.
Nice guys are just, well, bloody nice.
Hi, Charmaine. Hi, Mark.
Hi. I just came to say I had a really good time last night, and I wanted to give you these.
Oh, thank you so much.
And I was wondering if maybe later on,
because it's such a beautiful day, if you'd like to go for a picnic or something.
I'd love to. I really would.
Fantastic.
While you never can trust those utter bastards.
Mark, hi, it's Charmaine.
Who? Charmaine.
Oh, OK. Look, I'm actually just a little bit busy at the moment.
Oh, sorry. Did I catch you at a bad time?
Can I give you a call back?
OK. See you soon.
OK. Bye. Bye.
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By getting to know this ovulation cycle, intercourse can be timed
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When you see naked bodies in magazines like these,
they're usually professional models shot in a photographic studio
or in glamorous locations.
But have you ever flicked through the home pages and seen naked women
or the studly pages and seen naked men?
They're amateurs set in not-so-glamorous locations,
baring all for all sorts of reasons.
What's up?
There's a lot of mums and wives out there who'd love to do it,
but aren't allowed and not game enough.
And they think it's good that I did.
Yeah, I like that one too.
When I first saw it, it was an ego boost.
Not over the top or anything, but, you know,
I felt really good about myself.
I didn't feel attractive. I didn't look as nice as I could have.
But then when I did the cover, I felt a lot better in that.
I looked a lot better.
Amused, like I laughed. That was my first reaction and surprise.
But then I saw the $50 check and I thought, oh, well, that was worth it.
There's nothing new about sending a photo into a magazine
in hope of winning a prize.
But for a happy snapper who wants to be published
in either the studly pages or the home pages,
those photos have to offer just a little bit extra.
So what kind of people tend to send in these photos?
Well, honestly, I haven't met them personally,
but it seems to be girls who are either completely besotted
with their boyfriends, think they're absolutely gorgeous
and want everyone else to sort of recognise their beauty as well.
Or it's guys with really big egos
who are kind of desperate for everyone to see the goods.
The reason I sent the photo in, I read the magazine
and I saw the studly pages and I had a photo of Chris,
so I thought I'd send it in, went and asked him and didn't mind.
So it was a nice photo from our holiday, so I put that in.
Flex your muscles, show us your bowels now.
Julie and Chris have always taken snaps and home videos
of their special times together.
So the idea of showing Chris's manhood to the world
was simply an extension of that and a bit of fun.
My family and friends don't know anything about it.
Not that I'd mind them knowing,
but I just haven't really said anything to them.
But it's not just the guys who are bearing all to the newsstand boys.
The home pages in Picture Magazine offer women the chance
to share their favourite photos with a discerning reader.
Well, it's something that I've always wanted to do,
but was never allowed to, because when you get married,
your husband sort of wants to wrap you up in cotton wool,
no one's allowed to look at you.
And I thought, well, I've got something that you can look at, why not?
And it's not like I'm flaunting it, because I'm proud of it.
For Shirley, the end of her marriage meant the start of a newfound freedom
that saw her send photos of herself to the home pages.
Oh, a lot of friends were sort of really good about it,
and there were some friends who were pretty prudish,
and I said, well, that's your opinion, you keep it,
just don't tell me it's something I've done.
I'm an exhibitionist, yes, I won't say no.
For others like Kerry Lee, getting a photo published in the home pages
is part of a strategy to realise their modelling aspirations.
Well, we went away once and we got some great photos, a few nude ones,
and Mark suggested to me one day when we were going through them
that I should go in Home Girl of the Week.
I'd like to get into clothes modelling,
doing swimwear and jeans and stuff like that,
but it's so hard, the competition.
But I'm doing fine, I'm doing nude,
but I'd prefer to get into other modelling as well.
Looking good, I hope you're not too cold.
When Ann decided to send her brother's photo to the studly pages,
it was to help boost his confidence,
not especially to flaunt his body to the readers.
Be your tricep.
Mark is shy and I thought it would kind of be flattering for him
and kind of bring him out.
Deep down inside I am an exhibitionist.
If they asked me to pose nude, I would probably.
But for the girls out there, it's kind of lucky that many of the blokes
who send in their photos don't need that special invitation
to get their gear off.
Not only are they nude guys, they're nude ordinary guys
in their real bathrooms, in their real bedrooms,
so I think it's that kind of weird voyeur factor
going inside someone else's home and perving at their boyfriend.
Ooh.
The response has been huge.
The readers and the contributors seem to love the idea
of bearing a little flesh for a little cash.
It just keeps on going, keeps on escalating,
and we're never short of studlies.
We've got fresh studs.
Fresh studs. These are fresh studs.
Hundreds of them every day.
I mean, it's amazing.
The amount of guys who just want to be nude in a women's magazine
is phenomenal.
I'll put them down right now.
Toddy's going to look at them later.
Later.
This car is the bestseller on the Australian market.
It's got the 2.5-litre V6 engine,
which is very popular with sports enthusiasts.
When I guess when it's a bit hard to start in the mornings.
I'd say when the relationship's not fun anymore
and it's costing you too much money.
I'd probably say when the suspension starts to go,
the back end starts to sag a bit.
When the old one starts to get a bit rusty,
it starts to rattle, starts to squeak.
Basically when the ride's not as good.
When it starts to look a bit rough around the edges.
You look at the parts, it needs some lubricating.
I suppose when you're sick of spending money on the old one,
and you'd rather invest in a new one.
Firstly, you must have twin airbags.
Something with nice curves, a nice shaped rear end.
Suspension, good suspension.
Something a bit more modern than I had before.
Something that's going to be reliable.
Something with a decent marina on it.
Value for money, good mileage, and something that looks nice.
Something that you can get in and really drive.
Airbags are very important to me.
You want something that's nice, huge, and big.
Yeah.
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Everyone's going nuts over the Nutty Professor.
Might make a hit for all.
It's the funniest film of the summer.
A ton of laughs.
I'm a pony. I'm a pony.
Hilarious.
Eddie Murphy plays seven of the funniest roles of his career.
Thank you very much. I'm better. I'm flattered.
He's one of the funniest people in the world.
Well, we do what we can, you know.
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To play sports like rugby, you have to be strong, robust,
and tough enough to take the knocks.
For most men at the peak of physical fitness,
being tackled by serious health problems is the last thing on their minds.
It's not really something you worry about.
You've just got to live your life and have fun.
Just don't think, you know, because when you're young
you don't think of anything like that at all.
Yeah, it's not really something you worry about.
You've just got to live your life and have fun.
Just don't think, you know, because when you're young
you don't think of anything like that at all.
Yet there's one disorder that particularly affects their age group
and can devastate even the most finely tuned body.
Testicular cancer is the most common cancer in men aged 20 to 40.
The good news, though, is that it can be beaten,
but you have to be aware of it first.
Push down here. Feel it in your groin.
No, I've never really thought about it.
So have you ever heard of testicular cancer?
No, I haven't.
So do you ever check yourself?
No.
Before opening his homewear shop in Sydney,
David Hyman often takes a few quiet moments to reflect.
I think positivity is the main thing.
It's had a great change on my character.
I used to be a little negative about things,
and now I just try to see the best in everything.
28-year-old David was just 15 when he received a nasty groin injury
during a school football match.
Someone kicked a ball at me,
and the testicle was just very painful for a day or two,
and it became swollen and it increased in size for a couple of months
until I actually decided to do something about it
and take myself to a doctor.
David was told it was a cyst that needed draining,
an easily curable condition.
I woke up thinking that I was just having this basic cyst drainage.
You know, it's a really common procedure.
And I woke up after the next day and my testicle had been removed.
The cyst was actually a cancerous tumour.
It had spread to his spine and both lungs.
The initial blow of losing a testicle diminished
as David faced the wider implications of his illness.
Professor John Levi has spent the last 26 years studying testicular cancer.
His first meeting with David was to reassure him.
While people talk about cancer in very concerned tones
and automatically tend to think of death and its relationship to cancer,
there are very few people who die of cancer as tested today
if it's properly treated.
Compared to other cancers, testicular cancer is classed as uncommon.
But incidences are growing.
In Australia alone, there are 400 cases each year,
including 30 fatalities,
and over half of these are in the 20 to 40-year-old high-risk group.
It's still not known why younger men are more susceptible.
The disease also has a hereditary component.
The brother of a sufferer is 10 times more likely to get testicular cancer.
In a higher-risk group still are men born with underscinded testes.
They're 36 times more likely to develop testicular cancer.
Early warning signs include a change in the shape of the testicle,
a small hard lump, or a feeling of dragging or swelling in the groin.
Self-examination is actually the best way to pick up any changes early.
And men from the age of puberty right through to 50
should check themselves monthly, not just those in the high-risk groups.
A monthly self-examination takes seconds to do
and could save your life.
The best time to do this is after a warm bath or shower
when the scrotum is relaxed.
Each testicle should be examined separately.
Using both hands, gently roll the testicle
with the index and middle fingers underneath the testicles
and thumbs on top.
It's important to know how your testes feel normally.
Then you'll be more aware of any changes, like a lump or swelling.
Alternate the rolling action several times.
You should be able to feel the epididymis
attached at the back of the testicle,
and each testicle should feel soft and smooth.
Now, while treatment is possible and very effective later on,
it is much easier and even more effective early on.
So examination of the testes on a regular basis
would mean if you develop such a problem,
then the earlier it's picked up, the easier the treatment's going to be
and you have an excellent chance of cure, indeed, close to 100%.
David had to have seven courses of chemotherapy over a year.
It was a tough time, which could have been avoided
if he'd caught the tumour earlier.
Naturally, when you're young, you don't think that something like this
is going to be threatening, but it is.
To be aware of your body, and if something ever does happen,
even the slightest thing anywhere in your body that seems unusual,
to your daily living, that you should address it as soon as possible.
Obviously losing a testicle is very distressing,
but providing the other one is healthy,
sexual function and fertility shouldn't be affected in the long term.
Remember to heed those warning signs,
because early detection promises a 95% cure rate
and a return to normal life.
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Are you a little bored with your sex life?
Or maybe it's because you're doing the same old things over and over again.
Now, if that's the case, it might be time to try something new.
Sex therapist Mark Annes encourages us to experiment a little
and he's talking to Jodie Young.
A lot of people believe that sex is only satisfying in one particular sexual position.
The reality of life is that if we do something over and over again in exactly the same way,
eventually we're going to satiate or get bored by it.
So it's very important that as time goes along that we're able to have variation in what we do.
The most common position for intercourse is when the man lies on top and the woman's legs are parted.
This is called the missionary position.
This isn't necessarily the most satisfying position for the female in particular.
I certainly think from a female's perspective it's a very good reason to vary the position.
It's really about exploration and it's about self-exploration
and it's about allowing myself the opportunity to experience a new sensation.
Start your exploration by varying a position you know.
A woman raising her legs when she's already in the missionary position will allow for deeper penetration.
Or if she keeps her legs straight and the man lies with his legs on hers,
there's a shallower penetration but far greater skin contact.
If the man puts his legs outside the woman's and squeezes her thighs together,
more pressure on the penis will lead to greater penile stimulation.
Beyond variations of the missionary position,
why not try others that have different arousal elements?
I might enjoy a lot of skin contact.
So I might want a position where I have a lot of skin contact,
that is the person's on top or underneath me.
So is this position going to take a lot of time?
I have to undress for this position. That's a legitimate factor to take into account.
Changing around who's on top also changes the stimulation for both parties.
The best way of a woman getting on top is to start from side on.
She's now in a position to take an active role, raising and lowering herself onto his erection.
The woman on top positions not only allow for her to have more control,
but also allow for deep penetration.
This position is also good for large or pregnant women
and men whose movement is restricted because of back pain.
When the woman's on top, you can move into a sitting position.
This increases intimacy through lots of holding.
Because movement is restricted, it's a good position for teasing before orgasm or delaying it.