He's a true giant of the silver screen, but Danny DeVito's new role may surprise you.
It's his seven deadly sins. Does he say he only has eyes for you, but they're all over every other woman that walks by?
We'll show you how to knock those wandering eyes back in your direction. Your man and lust.
And he's burning up the charts and he's breaking hearts. Sexy pop sensation Duncan Sheaf performs his smash hit, Bite Your Tongue.
All that and more, next on The View.
Okay, I have a very novel idea. Let's talk about sex here on The View.
Actually, there is a fact, Barbara.
Well, I didn't say hello. Hello. I haven't seen you all in a minute.
No, you haven't. That's why we want to talk about sex.
Because actually there is a fascinating article in Moore Magazine and it follows our sexual behavior through the decades.
Starting with the 40s, 50s, 60s, 70s, 80s, 90s. And I realized that at this table we have pretty much been having constant sex for almost half of a century.
When you think about it. I mean, you've got to think about it. Now, I'm going to, in the 40s, maybe not. In the 40s, until you said I'd do in the 40s, you didn't.
That's right. You were real virgins in the 40s, not technical virgins like Debbie talks about.
Yes. You know what I'm saying?
No, but men were going to war in the 40s. There was no way to do it with.
And you also didn't talk about it because you didn't know anything about it, right, according.
And then the 50s was where you like ripped off the bra and the girdle, right, Barbara? That was when you kind of, boom.
I remember the 50s very well. They were my finest days. Well, remember, first of all, there was no birth control pill.
That's right. You had to be respected, you know. And not only did you never have intercourse.
I mean, you'd go to the movie and if he put his arm around you like this, it was sort of a big deal.
It was a very puritanical time. We were terrified of getting pregnant if you ever did anything.
Well, abortion was illegal. Abortions were illegal.
That's right. Yeah.
So did you then not do anything? Was that basically what happened? Or you?
You got married young. No, I mean it. You did.
You got married young?
You never lived with someone. Your parents would kill you.
Yeah.
And you got married very often, A, to get out of the house, you know, and B, because this was the only way you could have sex.
Get some is the word you're looking for.
Thank you.
Also, in those days, we did not know the expression, get some.
All right.
I was sort of on the cusp. I was in high school in the 50s and then I was married and in college in the 60s.
I'm very old. And I didn't, I was a virgin until I got married. I mean, I was such a virgin, I thought Doris Day was a slut.
I mean, I was good. I was a good girl. Were you a good girl?
As I was.
Who remembers who can?
Yes.
But I'm trying to know some things you remember. You remember.
There were some girls in college who were having sex, premarital sex, they were doing it.
But that was the rarity, yeah.
Well, we, yeah.
But you know, I got married late and I was 24.
That's late?
And when you think of it, that was late. All of my friends, all of my friends were married.
And see, I was the cusp. I was in the late 60s. I went to college in 71.
And I never will forget the first day I was at college, all the girls went to the nurse's office to get birth control pills.
It was expected, it was handed out almost like candy.
And I remember desperately wanting long-term relationships because I didn't like this idea of a one-night stand only being a one-night stand.
And I never did. I mean, it took, I had a lot of one-night stands.
I missed the sexual revolution completely and I said it before, but I resent it. I don't know about you. I do. I resent it.
But it's not...
The fact that our lives were so circumscribed.
Yeah.
But the birth control...
Yeah, but it wasn't as good as it was cracked up to be is what I'm saying.
I mean, it's great to preach free love, free love, but you know, a lot of people, I was lonely a lot of the time.
Just having sex doesn't get you much.
But there were two, the sexual revolution in general and the women's movement in general changed things.
Yes.
But there were two huge milestones. One was the birth control pill.
And that is that you could have sex without being afraid of being pregnant.
And the other, of course, which came much later, which came in the 80s...
That's mine.
That's my era.
And that was...
AIDS.
AIDS.
It changed the way most people... I went to college in 1979 and so the 80s were really my decade.
And everybody, you almost had to have your little sheet of paper there that said that you had your AIDS tested.
Another thing is a lot of people came out during that time.
You know, you understood what homosexuality was. People actually talked about it.
You would see gay people walking down the street. You had not really seen that as much in the other decades.
You mean holding hands.
Holding hands. I mean, of course, walking down the street, but I mean holding hands and being very comfortable with that.
And expressing that they too had long-term relationships in contrast with everybody just thinking, oh, they're just going out and doing it.
But I wonder when you came of age, how much that has to do with the way you define yourself.
You know, that's the point I was making. I value having a long-term relationship so much because at the time that I came of age sexually, it was all about just jumping into bed with the next guy you saw.
Really?
Yeah.
We missed the whole thing.
But it's not...
Well, maybe it's not too late.
It is too late.
No, well, that's actually the 90s. And they're talking about the fact that a lot of young people don't think about the AIDS epidemic like we thought about, you know, in the 80s.
That they, because you kind of can keep it under control, at least in theory, and you can deal with the condom and people are not worrying about it as much as they do.
But also now you have young men and young women, boys and girls being friends. We didn't have platonic friends. We had dates. We had the, if he doesn't call you Saturday night, what will I do?
Now you see young women out with young women on Saturdays, older women, it's a very different time. But it doesn't seem to have the same kind of relationships.
Again and again I hear from young people that it's terribly hard to meet guys, that it's very hard to have a relationship.
You want to hear a cool way?
Yeah, this woman found a really neat way to meet a guy. She came up with this, a 36-year-old divorced woman. Here's what she did.
She threw herself a birthday party and she asked all of her guests to bring a man as the gift. And they brought men with tags, the whole thing.
I love this.
It's a bachelor? And so she'll find a guy.
Where do you have friends who all know single men? I couldn't find six single men in New York to come to a party at a certain age.
A gay bar.
Yes.
You know I like this story.
What do you do?
You know I celebrate your birthday big time.
You know I do. And I sat down, I was up in my dressing room and I thought, I said let me put Barbara and Bill Getty, our wonderful executive producers, on the spot and say I would love to do a show, a Sadie Hawkins show,
where all the women in the audience bring a single man to the audience so I can pick and choose and finally find the regular guy. Don't you think that's a good idea? All for you.
We have sent you to dating bars. We have had you do things on the internet. We have lined up, what are these called, personnel things.
We have introduced you to the best guys one by one. This one's this, this one doesn't do that, this one my mother doesn't like, this one dropped wine on my dress, this one doesn't have a job. You could fill this entire room with single men, you'd find something wrong.
Yeah, what's the story here, Star?
Now just tell us what it is.
There are no men like my daddy anymore.
No, that's what.
Okay, let's whip out the psychiatrist, all right, get her on the couch. All right, here, we have one more.
All right, since the death of Princess Diana, she has been somewhat exalted.
He's single.
Yeah, Princess.
Oh, and rich.
Oh yeah, and real available. He's not single, he's with Camilla.
He's technically single.
But they can't live together because they were born back in the day when you didn't live together.
Okay, so you know she's been exalted as a brave woman caught in a terrible situation, but there's this upcoming book that may prove that the honeymoon is over.
It's called Charles, Victim or Villain, and it asserts that Diana was actually the first in that couple to be unfaithful,
and that she would make taunting crank phone calls to Camilla Parker Bowles in the middle of the night saying that she was going to send someone to kill her.
Who, Diana? They say Diana did that?
Diana would say, yeah, well supposedly in this book.
Oh, that's nice, and these two were saying that they had nothing to do with the book, right?
Well, Charles and Camilla say that they had nothing to do with the book, but what's this going to do to Charles now?
But how would anybody know that Diana called Camilla if Camilla didn't tell somebody because Diana is dead?
Well, okay, right, but Camilla could have told a close friend who then blabs to the author.
Diana said so much about herself as we now know in that book that she wrote with Andrew Morton, which she denied having anything to do with, but the tapes have then been revealed.
And Diana was a wonderful, charming, touching girl. She was also a very neurotic, very unhappy, very jealous girl, and all of that may very well have been true.
Charles has now become much more loved by the British public. He has a 50th birthday coming up this month.
He's evidently raised those two boys very well, and this is just one more piece of capitalizing on that stuff.
This one is getting $800,000 to serialize her book in the newspaper. I'm like, gee, please.
Have you ever done that when a guy is dumped you called the other girl and said anything?
No, but I've been nasty.
You have been nasty? Like what?
I'm not saying.
I did something nasty for a friend.
Like what?
I did something nasty for a friend when her boyfriend dumped her.
Yeah, what'd you do?
I called the new girlfriend and pretended to be the mother of his child that he doesn't have.
That's right, and said, I want to know where the child support is. I sure did.
Wow.
I sure did.
I am so glad you're my friend.
That girl dumped him like a hot potato. He was great. He felt wonderful. Go ahead.
Who's on, Barbara?
Oh, yeah. I'm so stunned by it. I'm trying to think of who I wanted to get. I have a little list.
You got it, Barbara.
Anyway, every movie becomes an event. We're going to have a very good time because one of my favorite men is here.
And now he is a leading man playing a romantic lead, no less. We're talking about Danny DeVito. He will be here next week.
We'll be right back with Dan the Man, DeVito.
Coming up, we're looking at his deadly sin of lust. Is your one and only one smooth operator when it comes to flirting with other women?
If you want him to get the message that you're fed up, we've got the answer.
Danny DeVito might not be one of Hollywood's tallest men, but measured on talent, Danny DeVito is a giant.
It's a good thing for us that this Emmy Award winning actor left styling here at his sister's beauty salon to become one of Hollywood's most successful television and film actors and directors and producers.
Now he has produced and is starring as leading man opposite Holly Hunter in a touching new comedy that deals with two very lonely people who find each other. It's called Living Out Loud. Take a look.
Where are you going?
Liz invited me to this after hours place downtown called Confession. Oh, it's somewhere in the meat district.
Oh, you look amazing. You better be careful going down to a place like that dressed the way you are. You look terrific.
Okay, really? You look very nice in your uniform.
Thank you.
The most loving elevator man I've ever seen. I'm going to go home and take another look at mine.
Please welcome Danny DeVito.
Thank you.
I went to see the movie. I shed a tear. Yes, my darling. Before we talk about the movie, you heard about our hot topics.
Yeah, I don't want to ask you when you did it for the first time because that's not.
We were talking about 40s.
I noticed you didn't answer that question about when you had it the first time.
You tell me. I'll tell you later. Okay.
All right, go ahead. Okay.
You're not going to tell me when I did it the first time. I don't want to know when you did it. I want to know when you.
How I did it.
I think I'll move on. The film.
The film is about two lonely people, very different people who find each other. That's right.
You are married, happy marriage, 16 years. You got three kids. When were you ever lonely?
Well, I imagine, you know, when I was a boy, a young boy, you know, in high school, I think I was really lonely.
Why? No girls, no dates? No, no, no. Occasional date.
But I mean, loneliness is like, you know, you mean without a woman or without a girlfriend or without.
But I mean, you know, when you're a kid growing, I grew up in Jersey and and sometimes, you know, when when you're in teenage years, it's a tough time.
My sisters, I have two wonderful sisters who are a lot older than me. So they were kind of like my kind of like my mom's really.
They were my my oldest sister, 16 years older than I am, 10 years older than my other sister, Teresa and Angie.
So I didn't have like siblings and there weren't a lot of people around.
That period of time, I think was the loneliest.
You know, now I'm going to start getting my hang of it.
Life is really, really rotten. You know what I'm saying?
I'm really happy to be here with all of you.
The funny thing is, there was a box of Kleenex here on the table and I just gave it to somebody.
I said, I don't need the Kleenex. There is not going to make anybody cry.
No, I won't make anybody cry. I promise.
When you were 15 when I first got it. What?
Pretty good. I was older much anyway.
When you decided you want to leave that will tell you another one.
When you decided you wanted to be an actor. Yes.
Five feet tall. You were not what the leading man supposedly looked like.
All the parts that have been played, by the way, in all 30 some odd movies have all been characters were five feet tall.
So it was very easy.
But did the acting, you know, the coaches and the casting directors, did they say to you, forget it?
No. I never had any of that.
The good thing about it was I was, from the time I was, I didn't want to be an actor when I was a little boy.
I mean, I was like, it was after high school.
I was like, you know, I was in Asbury and I was deciding what to do.
And I always, I'm a big movie fan. I was, every Saturday and Sunday I go to the movies.
And I always thought I could do that.
You know, I look up there and I see those guys doing what they're doing.
Whatever, you know, whether it was Bogie or Peter Laurie or Cary Grant.
It didn't matter. I always wondered, you know, what that would be like some way deep down.
And then the good thing about it was my parents always encouraged me to do everything.
So you never felt, you never felt I'm too short?
I always, I felt at the beginning that it might be a hurdle to overcome.
But then as I started going on, I understood what it was all about.
That's really your, whatever you are, your personal appearance being sensibility or your,
how you are as a character really goes, you can make that work for you.
Because like for instance, I would walk into an audition.
Like I did a lot of off-Broadway work in New York and off-off-Broadway.
And like I would go into an audition for everything.
And like five, six people would come in, they all looked alike.
And all of a sudden I walk in. You know what I mean?
And that as an advantage, people thought, well this is a unique way to go.
And I think that helped me in my career, you know.
You've made it an advantage and your wife is the most wonderful character actor and comedian.
In this film, you're the leading man. You're a romantic leading man.
Well I was to produce the movie, see, so I figured you were.
Exactly. Exactly.
No.
Thank you.
Yes.
I used my noodle, please.
But it must be fun, isn't it, to have that kind of a role?
Oh yeah, it was a lot of fun. It was great to,
Richard Le Gravenais, who wrote Living Out Loud, is a wonderful writer.
He wrote The Fisher King and Bridges of Madison County and Horse Whisperer.
And this is a love story.
Yeah, it's really about people who are raging against their loneliness.
And Holly's in a particular time in her life where she's just been dumped by her husband.
A lot of women, especially in New York, will identify with that.
And she's really having a tough time. She's internalizing all of her pain.
I'm a guy who just, I'm an elevator operator in her building,
and I've just gone through a tragic loss in my life.
And together, they come together just the right time.
And as friends, they help each other out.
It's not a conventional Hollywood ending or anything like that.
Listen, how many times does someone go like this to their elevator?
Yeah.
And I've got four ladies who want to do that to you, baby.
Tell me.
We'll be right back with Daniel DeLuga.
Coming up, does your husband suffer from the deadly sin of lust?
Have you had it up to here with your guy ogling every babe that comes around?
We've got the plan that'll make him see once and for all that he's your man, yours only.
And tomorrow, the singing superstar that captivates every generation, Mr. Tony Bennett.
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AFB on ABC.
You'll be surprised.
See you Saturday.
Welcome back.
We're here with Danny DeVito, who I know is a cigar aficionado.
And so, a small Cognac dip, Stokely for you.
Well, I think I have one here.
See, I have a cigar.
I'm not sure where it was dipped, but you can have that.
Oh, I know this.
This is an Opus X, right?
Oh, baby, this is good.
You two are very boring.
Oh, sorry.
Let's talk about something else.
Like, one of your best friends or one of my favorite people is Michael Douglas.
That's right, Mikey D.
And you guys have been hanging out for a long time.
Actually, you say he was a hippie on a motorcycle?
No, did I say he was a hippie?
Yeah, he was a hippie.
He was?
On a motorcycle.
On a motorcycle?
Yeah, that's right.
No, no, no, no, no.
Well, actually, Michael and I met in, I think, 64, the G.O. Neal Foundation in Waterford, Connecticut.
We were actors, and Michael was up there.
He was still at University of California in Santa Barbara, but he was there doing, like, an intern thing.
And I was going through the play.
I came in, and we were fast friends.
He said himself he was a hippie in those days.
Yeah.
He's talked about it.
When I had hair, it was down to here.
Yeah.
You're a bunch of easy riders.
We had a lot of fun.
Weren't you a hairdresser?
You were a hairdresser, right?
Yeah, I was a hairdresser.
After high school, I was hanging around Asbury, and my sister Angie, who's 16 years older than I am.
I was talking about her before.
And she had a beauty parlor.
And she said, you know, I was doing, she said, why don't you come to work for me?
I said, what am I going to do?
She says, I'll send you to school.
You become a hairdresser.
Sounds like a line from the movie.
I said, like, you know, what are you, what are you, kidding me?
So I went to the school.
I was really reluctant to go.
And I went to the school.
And the first day I went there, I came home.
I had a big smile on my face.
It was 98% women in that place.
That's right.
Hey.
Remember the movie Shampoo.
I was very, very happy.
That's right.
It was very happy.
I didn't want to leave the school.
Too bad I had to come to her beauty parlor to do the women there.
You know, some had six hairs on their head.
You know, but it was like really very nice.
But you were really a one-woman man, really.
Yeah.
And you have said that she fell in love with you at first sight.
She did, did.
Tell me the story.
Well, actually, I was doing a play.
I was doing a play off Broadway.
And I was playing a demented stable boy.
And I, you know, I had a hut on stage.
And I had a, the first scene, curtain opens.
And I'm, I got a rake over my shoulders.
And I'm down at the apron of the stage.
And I'm spitting off into the orchestra pit.
And a girl comes on stage, this young girl who's the landowner's daughter,
who I was in the shed, you know, every once in a while.
And she says to me, she says, what are you doing, Richie?
And I said, I'm spitting on the swans.
And that turned her on.
And that was it.
And that was Ria.
She was in love at first sight.
Ria was the young girl who came out.
No, no, Ria was in the audience.
And that turned her on.
You never mentioned that.
Ria was in the audience, sees you spitting on the swans, and falls in love with you.
And falls madly in love with me.
Now wait a second, something is missing in this film.
She's from Brooklyn, you know about this, right?
I'm spitting on the swans.
That's what it takes to get a woman.
How do you keep it all together, you and Ria?
You've got two kids, you're busy, she's got three kids.
She's busy, you're busy.
Ria's actually working right now.
She's doing the, you know this play, The Last Night of Ballyhoo?
Yes.
She's doing it in L.A.
That's right, I loved it.
Yeah, really good.
And you're also doing the Andy Kaufman story.
We're doing Andy, Man on the Moon it's called.
And we're producing it, I'm in it.
So I have the mustache, I'm playing a guy named George Shapiro, who's the nicest man in the world.
That's Seinfeld's manager, George Shapiro.
Yeah, that's right, George, yeah.
And Jim Carrey is playing Andy Kaufman, and Muelish Form is directing it.
It's going really well.
Why don't you produce a movie for you and Ria?
People would love to see it.
Well Ria was in Matilda.
Well you did that in Matilda.
Yeah, that's true.
Yeah, that was Mrs. Wormwood.
Oh.
Yeah.
But you don't want to do more?
Scary.
We want to do more, it's a matter of finding the right material, you know.
The months.
Now my over going back.
That's 1920.
That's good.
Fred and, I know who Fred and Ginger is, Fred and Ginger.
Yeah, Fred and Ginger.
Yeah, you like dancing.
Oh yeah.
Yeah, there's a great scene in the movie that I absolutely love by the way, where there's
a whole bunch of dancing going on, little kinky dancing going on.
Yeah.
But you could do like an epic like a Rob Roy.
Little Rob Roy kind of dancing.
What's he doing?
Well we could do a lot of movies.
We're doing a lot of movies at Jersey.
Jersey Films is the company.
And we did Living Out Loud, and you know, Man on the Moon, we did Pulp Fiction, we did
Get Shorty.
You know, Danny, when you were back there in Asbury putting those, the rollers on those
three hairs.
Yeah.
Did you ever think you'd be a big director, movie star?
No, no.
My God.
I thought I did.
I thought, no.
I thought, you know, no, I hadn't any idea.
It's great, isn't it?
Yeah, it's great.
Well, you are absolutely great at Living Out Loud.
It's a wonderful date movie.
You can take your boyfriend, you can nudge him every time.
He doesn't do something as wonderful as your character does.
Oh, thank you.
I fell in love with your character.
Thank you very much.
And I would have done you an elevator, swear to God.
I really would.
I would have.
And I think you should.
Thanks, Danny.
Thank you.
Come back and visit anytime.
All right.
Our best of your life.
And you guys be sure to keep Living Out Loud now playing in theaters everywhere.
Now, when we come back, does your man constantly scope out other women and blatantly flirt?
What?
You don't do that to me.
Please.
Even when you're together, I don't even want to know about it.
We'll show you how to make him see the error of his philandering ways when we look at your
man's deadly sin of lust.
Say that word with me, everybody here.
Lust.
We'll be right back.
Later, he's hot, he's sexy, and he's making it chic to write incredible pop tunes.
Straight from the top of the charts, Duncan Chic sings his hit, Bite Your Tongue.
Does your man constantly ogle every woman who walks by?
Does he flirt mercilessly in public even if you're standing right next to him?
Does he make you feel like chopped liver when he should be treating you like steak?
All this month, we're going to discuss your man's seven deadly sins as if they were only
seven.
Today, for example, we're going to discuss lust.
Now, most men I know are in the triple digits already on this subject.
We have today Mary and Grady.
These two young, lovely people have been together for four years, and his eyes are still wandering
at breakneck speed, and Mary wants him to get his eyes checked at the door.
Here to give the two of them a hand is clinical psychologist and author of Instant Analysis,
Dr. David J. Lieberman.
Thank you all for being here.
Welcome.
Thank you.
Happy to be here.
Thank you.
Now, I think, Doctor, we know what lust is.
Do you have a quick definition for lust?
Well, the exact definition is lust is an intense sexual desire or appetite.
Okay.
Now, tell us...
Well, not appetite, meaning yum, yum, yum, yum.
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
We got it.
We're in the same.
Exactly.
Tell us how he acts in public.
Well, for instance, we'll go into a restaurant.
We went to a comedy club not too long ago.
My girlfriends and I and Grady.
And we walk in the door, and as soon as we get in the door, he looks all over the room,
does this, looks.
And then if there's a woman there that catches his eye, it's immediate.
And then he'll go throughout the rest of the room.
And then that woman will be the one he looks back at the whole time.
Oh, so he picks one.
He picks one or two.
So he's monogamous.
Well, yeah, he'll go throughout the room.
If there's two or three of them.
And then he'll set his chair kind of a little bit aside.
And if they walk by, you'll hear this, hmm, hmm.
He'll be making the noise.
Oh, he'll make noises, all kinds of noises.
What other noises does he make?
You know, oh, God.
Hmm.
Or he'll whistle.
Whistle.
Underneath his breath.
Grady.
So I can't hear.
Or he thinks I can't hear.
So he'll do this, hmm, hmm.
As they're walking by, or he'll make comments on, God, that looks good.
Grady, is that true?
Yeah.
Well, I reckon I did get caught a couple of times there.
Got caught.
So you do do it.
You acknowledge that you do it in front of Mary.
And that's cool.
I believe it is a young man's duty to.
It's true.
I want to hear what a young man's duty is.
To take notice of all the women, you know.
That's just it.
Sometimes behavior is not an attempt to be rude and disrespectful.
This is how he was brought up.
This is what he thinks is appropriate.
So that's one of the first steps in dealing with it is actually confronting it and explaining
to him that this is not appropriate.
I don't know how whistling is going to be a strategy for meeting women, but it is inappropriate.
No, but he's not out to meet them.
He's just out to ogle them.
Would you like to meet them too?
I mean, yeah.
No, he doesn't go up and talk to them, but he acknowledges that they're there and he
makes sure that they know that he is looking at them.
And how does it make you feel when he acts like that?
Well, it actually kind of depends.
If she's better looking than me, I'm offended.
And if she's not?
Well, then I just laugh.
I say.
Then it's just funny.
I say.
All right.
But have you said to Grady, you know what, I'm not comfortable with this.
Don't do this.
Well, the problem in his response basically is that women were put on this earth to look
at and admire.
What are you, Vincent van Gogh?
So also what's going on here is more of a matter of power.
He does this in front of her on purpose.
He says he's being discreet, but he's not because it makes her feel less secure, less
comfortable, and that in turn makes him feel more powerful, which is the same reason why
he whistles at women, because it's very demeaning.
In much the same way as you'd stare at a caged animal, it puts you in a position of power
and authority.
Oh, Grady.
Well, I don't know about all that.
How would you sum it up, Grady?
Women take a lot of time to get themselves all prettied up, you know, and they want to
be noticed.
He's altruistic.
You see, that's the thing.
He actually thinks he's doing a service.
Women put all this time and effort into this.
Right.
And he does, too.
I mean, he does.
I feel pleasure in noticing them.
Yeah.
Hank is our researcher.
Hank, what do you think of Mary?
I just wanted to say she looks really fine.
Thank you.
Is she hot, would you say?
Very hot.
Yeah?
Yep.
I mean, she's extremely, look at her.
She's gorgeous.
How do you feel, Grady?
How do you like that?
I agree.
Grady, come on.
Now, if he was at a club doing that to Mary, would you like it?
Do you like it when men ogle her?
Yes, I do.
You do?
He's proud of it.
It's great.
Do you think something else is going on here besides this?
Oh, yeah.
What's going on?
Tell us, Doctor.
I think Grady has a couple of issues here in dealing with women.
Understand, when he lusts after women, it has absolutely nothing to do with you.
It affects her, but his lusting, if he was with a supermodel with an IQ of 200, he'd
still be doing the same behavior.
So it has nothing to do with her, is what you're saying, but it still makes her feel
bad.
Of course.
At the very least, it's rude.
It's rude, it's insulting, it's degrading.
Right.
So why do you stick it out?
Well, we've been together a long time, and I love him.
What about his good qualities?
Tell us about his good qualities.
He has some really good qualities.
He does, you know, he's always doing little sweet things for me, you know, helps me out
around the house.
Like, he'll do dishes, he'll help me clean up the house and stuff, and he'll cook with
me, we cook together, you know, we do a lot of fun things together.
Great eyesight, yeah.
So as long as there are no other women around, you're doing fine with them.
Right.
Yeah.
Yeah, as long as there's no other women around.
And I have gorgeous sisters, you know, and they'll come over and drop by, and he looks
at them too.
He can't help it.
He just can't help it.
Yeah.
We'll drive down the road.
Yeah.
If, Grady, if I offered you $100,000 the next week not to look at other women, do you think
you could manage that?
No.
Yes.
No.
There's no way.
Grady can help it.
And Grady, you don't want to cheat on this young, beautiful woman, do you?
You just want to look.
Absolutely not.
Well, maybe, you know, what are the things that women can do if they're in this situation?
Definite ways if your man is lusting after other women.
Yes.
A couple of definite do's and don'ts.
Number one, always confront him first.
He may one, not be aware of what he's doing.
He may not be aware that it's that obvious and he may not be aware of what he's doing
to you.
Number two, ask him for his motivation.
You want to at least view all notification, understand why he's doing what he's doing.
And number three, most importantly, provide an ultimatum.
You need to let him know that this behavior is unacceptable.
People will treat you the way you train them to.
She has trained him that it's okay for this to go on.
If Mary said to you, Grady, stop it or I'm dumping you, would you stop it?
Probably not.
No.
You wouldn't.
I don't think I can deal with that.
So your behavior is more important to you than she is.
Is that what you're saying?
I told her one time that if I ever quit looking around that I want her to shoot me like a
lame horse.
Because you feel it would be less of a manly thing?
Is that where you're at?
It's like a man hug.
Well, there's always so many simple pleasures in life.
Try Ben and Jerry's.
Beautiful.
Thank you so much.
Mary, Grady and Dr. Lipton for that very funny last line.
Who's book, by the way, is called Instant Analysis.
When we come back, the red hot Duncan Sheik will sing his hit Bite Your Tongue.
We'll be right back.
Yeah.
Thank you.
Next week, throw your hats in the air for the best loved woman in TV history.
Mary Tyler Moore stops by to brighten the view.
He's grown up on one of television's hottest shows.
Home Improvement's Jonathan Taylor Thomas on going from New Kid on the Tube to Teen Heart
Throb.
We're overflowing with forgettable one-hit wonders.
Duncan Sheik is a rare gem.
From the first time you hear one of his songs, you know it will stay with you for a very,
very long time.
The critics love him and so will you.
Here to perform his hit, Bite Your Tongue, Bite Your Tongue Off, his CD Humming, please
welcome Duncan Sheik.
Such an annoying conversation.
I'm sorry but I'm tired of trying to be some picture of compassion.
Anyway, it sounds like a lie.
Yes, I've heard the world has conspired to steal away your God-given right to a happy
home and comfortable children.
Next you'll sue them for abandoning you.
Bite your tongue.
You're not the only one to be let down.
I'm surprised it's gonna sound like I'm agreeing with the most ultra boring ideas of pop psychological
western good-oos who haven't gotten lucky in years.
So you see, I have no intention of giving you the easy way out.
And yes, I'll smile as I burn myself out of the section of my local bookstore.
Bite your tongue.
It's good for you to hit the ground.
You blame the shapes and blame the angles, blame it on your own darn name.
You blame it on something other than her.
So bite your tongue.
You're not the only one who's been let down.
Bite your tongue.
You blame the shapes and blame it on your own darn name.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
You blame the shapes and blame it on something other than her.
My mom.
Bite your tongue.
I wanted to be out here for that segment with that boy that looks around at the women.
Grady?
Hallease.
Who, the luster?
Yeah, he had a lot of nerve.
What happens to you when you're out with a guy and they're looking at other women?
You too, you were not in the segment.
I mean, if the guy's looking and just glancing over, that's fine.
But if he's only, I'm going to say, excuse me, if you want to sit with her, go over there.
Oh, yeah.
Okay, cool.
You know, you always read about these great women courtesans, temptresses like Pamela Harriman, okay?
And they say, and what she did with the man is she looked at him as if he were the only man in the room.
She never took her eyes off him.
That's what the woman's supposed to do, right?
Never take your eyes off him.
Am I getting to you?
Kiss me, Barbara.
But the man, I thought, okay, it's my thing, I can look.
Yeah, exactly.
Well, what do you do then if a man does that around you?
They never do.
Do you remember, do any of you remember Jimmy Carter?
Yes, we remember.
He was on TV this morning.
Do you remember, okay.
The lust in your heart line, the lost in the presidency or some say.
No.
No.
I'm sorry.
Is that lost in the presidency?
No.
Clinton does this and lust in your heart loses.
Well, that was the president.
Actually, it won in the presidency, didn't it?
He said it before he became president.
I take it all back.
That won him the presidency.
Okay.
Right.
The point of it is that you can have lust in your heart, but you don't have to sit with someone looking all over the room.
I don't know.
It's so insulting.
And this guy does wolf whistles.
I mean, he's, and she's staying with him.
She loves him.
She needs a course in self-esteem.
Yeah.
And he needs a good smack.
That's what he needs.
He really does.
He needs a course in etiquette.
You don't do that.
Well, on that note, with lust in our heart and love for all our guests.
Right?
Let's meet Danny DeVito.
He's adorable.
He's cute.
Thank you.
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You have a great day.
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