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Eiffelrage from the French stroking.
An erotic awakening for both of you.
Gentle kneadings or petrissage.
An exploration of the senses.
Circular fingertip frictions.
A sensual indulgence that reignites passion.
A form of vibration.
Limited only by your imagination.
Can be followed by rhythmic percussion or tepid mall.
Think of it as a seduction.
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I'll tell you how it used to be.
The first time we got together, you know, he'd invited me over for dinner at his house.
And while it was in the oven, one thing led to another and, you know, before you know
it, dinner was burnt to a crisp.
And the only thing that got us out of the bedroom were these clouds of black smoke milling
out in the room.
It was pretty, pretty creepy.
We still would have been at it, but I guess, you know, the house would have burned down
and we got married.
So I said, you know, while she was putting everything in the suitcase, her shorts and
her swimsuit and everything, and I said, why don't you pack that sexy little lingerie,
you know, that you never wear.
I mean, let's find a use for it.
We were really going at it very energetically and next thing I know, I feel this tapping
on my head.
It's my two and a half year old.
When I give him a kiss on the cheek and I say, honey, you mean the world to me, what
I really want to hear is, gee, sweetheart, I really love you too.
And what do I get?
And I end up the skirt.
You are about to begin a love affair.
No, not with someone new.
You're about to discover the magic of having an everlasting love affair with your partner,
an affair nurtured by passion and trust.
We'll unravel the mystery of making love come alive, of changing patterns that may have
dulled your relationship and of recapturing the excitement you felt with one another in
the beginning.
You'll rekindle the fire of your imagination.
You'll begin an adventure and you'll discover that you can continue finding new ways to
delight one another for the rest of your lives.
We've both always been very busy people.
Our day runners are full and since we've been married, I've had a couple of jobs and when
I took this job at the ad agency, I had no idea how consuming it would be.
That's the trouble.
Even when we're both at home, we're both still consumed with work.
You know, our sex life used to be great, but now it's almost like it's an obligation.
Sometimes I think we just make love not because we want to, but because we have to.
So we can go on obsessing about work.
To be honest, sometimes when we're making love, I still think about work.
Really?
Yes.
Me too.
We're both very driven people.
And that's okay.
It's just that I think we should find time to drive some other things.
The busy couple with high pressure work lives need to protect their relationship by making
sure lovemaking doesn't become just one more exercise in time management.
Ask yourself this question.
If you spent the same amount of time on developing a business as you do on enriching your relationship,
would you have a success?
Plan a day together, away from home, in a fresh environment where workday demands cease
to exist.
Take a drive into the country.
Find a serene body of water or a private enclave in the woods.
Let the calming sights and sense of nature help you silence the chatter in your mind.
Relax and pay attention to one another.
Each of you can take charge of planning different aspects of the day.
One of you might choose the spot, keeping it a secret until you arrive.
The other might select the food, the wine, or the music.
Make each ingredient meaningful.
The same wine you drank at your wedding, the herb bread from that out-of-the-way bakery
she adores, the strawberries that remind him of your honeymoon trip to Maui.
Remember that lovemaking is not simply a matter of joining body parts, but of revealing your
feelings and saying I love you in thousands of subtle, not just sexual ways.
Cherish each other's touches.
Linger.
Enjoy what it means to be relaxed and unhurried.
There are no rules today.
It's all right to share warmth and affection without necessarily building up to a sexual
payoff.
That may be exactly what you both need.
Make an effort to focus closely on your partner, on what you've always found special and beautiful
about her, about him.
Allow yourselves the luxury of slowly sliding into another emotional and sensual dimension.
There's no reason to hurry.
You have all day.
Many couples at this point need to consciously stop themselves from racing forward, so ingrained
is the frantic pace of their lives.
You can expect to have this feeling, but try to hold back.
Instead of pressing ahead hurriedly, focus on allowing all of your senses to flourish
in new and unexpected ways.
Feel your partner's pleasure.
Express how it feels to be here right now, together, like this.
When tomorrow comes, don't let yourselves lose sight of the things you did to make today
special.
You shared the responsibility of planning the day.
You slowed your pace.
You focused on each other.
And you let yourselves live in the moment.
If you can continue to do these things each day, if only for a half hour of unhurried time,
you'll strengthen your bond with each other and feel more refreshed when the sun rises
again.
Well okay, basically the problem is, you see, this baseball hat that he's wearing, he wears
all the time.
I mean, he wears it around the house constantly.
I don't wear the hat all the time.
And going to sleep every night, he wears these baggy basketball...
No, no, I'm sorry, time out shorts here for a minute.
Time out, you see?
Time out.
No, it's not, I don't wear it all the time.
I wear it for you with your sweatshirt.
She wears this ugly old sweatshirt from like 1912 inverted cotton balls all over it.
Yeah, I wear it because it's athletic and it's the only way to get his attention is
because it has something to do with sports.
Attention, I wake up in the middle of the night and he has this green goop on her face,
it's like Dawn of the Dead, it scares me to death, but she wants attention.
Okay, okay, okay, okay, basically...
Really romantic.
We've been married for seven years.
Five years.
Okay, we lived together for two years, but we've been together for a total of seven years.
Seven years, it makes sense.
And basically, we're acting more and more every day like my mother and father.
I mean, we become them, our bedroom looks like their bedroom, it's, exit Passion Pit
and then enter Romper Room, you know what I'm saying?
Okay.
Little trucks and toys all over the place.
Okay.
And then her books are stacked all over the place.
Okay, okay, okay, the books are everywhere, but you don't help things with your baseball
cart.
I mean, he has books, like you wouldn't believe, he has six or seven...
Let's face it, after a number of years together, you can fall into a rut when it comes to lovemaking.
The urge might not always be there.
The steady demands of parenthood may seem to swallow up the sexual side of your relationship.
Perhaps the four walls of your bedroom are closing in on you.
And you need to discover other places to make love.
A place as close and obvious as your own backyard.
Whether it's poolside or on a blanket on the back lawn, plan your time together just as
romantically as you would for a seductive night in the bedroom.
Use the gift of time you've given yourself to cool down from the harried state of mind
you experience all week.
And slowly, deliberately warm up to one another.
A body rub under the warming rays of the sun may be just the pathway to reawakening long
dormant feelings that sex can be playful as well as enrapturing.
In the seclusion and privacy of your own backyard, you can celebrate the freedom of an afternoon
all to yourselves.
Do what comes naturally.
Let the child in you emerge.
Free the part of you that usually says no to new sexual experiences.
Let yourself go and enjoy every minute of it.
The warm sun, the soothing massage, the cool water.
Together they relax your mind and body and revitalize your lovemaking.
You can also add spice to your love life if you're just out for a drive together or you're
on your way home from a restaurant or the movies.
Break your routine.
Tell the babysitter you'll be an hour later.
Veer off the main road to that secluded special place where you used to park when you were
first dating.
For a moment in time, feed teenagers again.
Only this time, you don't have a curfew.
A stop off on Lover's Lane can bring back the fond memories of those days when you had
fewer responsibilities and obligations of work and family.
And by carrying those feelings back with you to the bedroom, you can rekindle the flames
Appreciate each other this time and every time like it's the first time.
You're saying you don't feel like I'm making you special.
You don't feel like I want you, but that's how I feel.
Well, it's not that I want it all the time.
It's just that I have to feel for the most part that you still think I'm very sexy and
attractive and you can't wait to get home at night and that things haven't changed
that much.
A budding relationship evokes strong feelings that can be like nothing else in the world.
A loving couple can recapture the vibrancy, the delightful sense of anticipation of those
early days with just a little bit of shared effort.
Renew the affair with your partner by carving out one untouchable dimension in time.
Many couples like to reserve Wednesday night because it divides the week and always offers
something to look forward to when Monday rolls around.
Alternate taking charge of planning the evening, of determining what you'll do and where you'll
go.
This week, it's your turn.
You've left your partner a note telling her where and when to meet, but that's not all.
Tonight, you begin as strangers, bringing her fantasy to life by turning a chance encounter
into an evening of elegance and romance.
No matter what your actual plans, you'll surely delight your partner when you construct the
evening upon a rising spiral of unknown and unexpected events.
It costs nothing but your love and time to create unique surprises.
Yet, by using this element to build your partner's anticipation and suspense throughout the evening,
you keep him or her on the edge, filled with unflagging enthusiasm and mushrooming excitement.
You might begin with a rooftop dinner for two.
Men and women often have different ideas about what they consider romantic.
For a woman, romantic may be all the thoughtful gestures of love and caring that are either
a prelude to sex or an end in themselves.
Just talking with her partner, laughing, having his undivided attention is romantic.
Ask her.
For many men, romance is synonymous with lust, sexuality, earthiness.
Perhaps an unexpected imaginative seduction is romantic.
Perhaps when his partner says, I wish we could be more romantic, he hears her saying, I wish
we could have more sex.
Ask him.
And neither his or her idea of romance is better or worse, right or wrong.
They're merely different, which makes it all the more important that lovers describe for
one another what romance and passion look like to each of them.
Your romantic evening continues with an intimate ride home.
Remember if you're having a love affair with your own partner, you can never be too mature,
too married, too serious or too settled to seize the magic of the moment.
To give your love the ultimate in pampering, you've decided to cap the evening with a
deep muscle-loosening massage for two, given by a masseuse in the privacy of your own home.
When couples
have been together for years, they often grow to see each other in rigid, unyielding ways.
Unintentionally, they type one another and become unable to see the hot springs of emotion
and fantasy that simmer beneath their partner's familiar surface.
In order to break through to their own hidden sexual depths, some men and women have affairs,
believing that only with someone new can they be free.
Yet an affair is only rarely a satisfying way out of feeling sexually stifled or a challenge
to the status quo in a two-state sexual relationship.
It's infinitely more frightening, yet undeniably more rewarding, to take your ultimate risks
within your relationship, not outside it.
For a man, those risks are likely to include bearing himself emotionally, his last stronghold
of resistance.
For a woman, they may mean defying her partner's ordinary vision of her and exposing her most
secret and exotic desires to both of them.
For your special planned evenings together, remember it's not the expense you go to or
the elaborate quality of your plans.
It's the sensitivity and connection you have with each other that most profoundly determines
the outcome.
Well if we're talking about the way things used to be, whatever happened to that real
seductive woman that I married, huh?
The one who used to meet me at the door in her negligee, the one who used to do those
little special things.
I mean, when was the last time that you initiated sex?
See if you can remember that.
It's always my responsibility.
Maybe the last time you romanced me or brought me flowers for no special reason.
Surprised me.
Well, so you're saying it's all my responsibility, all my fault?
No, not exactly.
I just, I just like it when you're so much more affectionate and attentive to me instead
of just going through the motions.
It's exciting to become the seductress, taking control, making the first move.
Suddenly you don't need to wait for him to approach you and suddenly your sexual power
erupts.
Not from saying no to his demands, but from saying now to your own.
The only rules are those you make.
You determine what you wish to do, who you wish to be, where to draw the line.
And how close to the edge to play.
This can be a thrilling wild moment for you.
A gift for him.
And an initiation into a novel way of linking with one another.
If you're a spirit of lightness and joy, be that.
Let go of expectations.
Things that belong to other people, other relationships, other realities.
Be free to connect with your lover.
Touch him, tease him, flirt with him, whisper in his ear.
There are so many levels to your relationship, so many nuances, the tender, the wanton, the
mischievous, the elusive, the gleeful.
So many couples burn up their love on the wrong kind of drama.
Fights, crises, bouts of breaking up and making up, until the closeness that was once so precious
turns to ashes.
Draw your drama from the mesmerizing moves you make.
There's no better place for you to express them than here, with the one you love.
What do you know?
Oh
Wait sex life
You gotta be kidding me I mean we work all day long when we get home
It's after nine o'clock at night when we say let's go to bed. That means
sweet dreams night night out
While it's often necessary for couples to plan time to enjoy one another
It's just as important to express your erotic feelings spontaneously
It really doesn't matter whether it's reasonable to act on them at that moment or not
What does matter is that you pay attention to even the most fleeting sexy thoughts and of course
Let your partner know exactly how she or he has inspired you
Sometimes the sexiest moments are those that could never have been planned or anticipated
And sometimes one of the most exciting aspects of a relationship is knowing that just about anything might happen between the two of you
Just about anywhere
What seems like a boring night at home with no specific plans can turn into an unexpected evening of fun and fantasy
When that idea hits you out of the blue and you act on it immediately
Together
Your spur of the moment idea is to turn your bedroom into a photographer's studio
Either one of you can be the model and the other the photographer
Part of the thrill of being spontaneous is that it allows you to stretch your limits
Explore your extremes. Anything can happen that you want to have happen
It's all up to you and your vivid imagination
This is also a fun way to put your video camera to good use and make memorable home videos
Don't be afraid to play, to have fun, to be silly, to laugh and be exuberant carefree lovers
This is hardly serious business. It's the ideal time to lose your inhibitions and to enjoy each other
If you're behind the camera, think of yourself as her art director and feel free to make your own creative suggestions
It's all right to take pleasure in your partner and yourself for the sake of pleasure alone
You needn't feel guilty about having such a delightful indulgent evening
Remember that today's pleasure isn't merely frivolous. All the qualities that made it so rich and fulfilling can be applied to every other facet of your relationship
Keep as part of your lives the playfulness, the sensuality, the willingness to act spontaneously
And you'll be able to create a lifetime of memories each and every day
While the familiar confines of your bedroom afford you comfort and safety for acting spontaneously, there is an element of excitement you can derive from expressing your sexual feelings wherever you are
Many couples share fantasies about making love in unusual or risky places, and sometimes those fantasies can become thrilling realities if you dare
Remember there will always be occasions when your partner doesn't respond with the same intensity or desire your feeling. It's natural that the timing or location won't always be perfect
Even if you need to say not now or not here, take in the pleasure of being desired, and be sure to tell your lover how good it feels to know that he or she wants you
Your closeness will continue to grow as long as you both feel safe sharing your sexual feelings. By acting on your desires at the instant they occur, you'll catapult your relationship into a new dimension of passion
The added element of possible discovery can give your love making never before experienced levels of tension, drama, and heart-pounding pleasure
Share the risk. Capture the moment. Put the thrill of satisfying forbidden desires back into your love life. When you awaken your fantasies and respond to each other openly, you enhance a love that grows more exhilarating year after year
I mean, our friends think we have the most perfect relationship. You know, and in most ways we do
Yeah, I mean we talk about everything. We support each other's careers and I'd rather be with him more than anyone else, I think
You know, she really knows me better than anyone. It's, you know, she even finishes sentences for me and when we're at work, we'll both pick up the phone at the exact same time and we'll call each other
Yeah. You know, we're just, you know, very good friends
Yeah, but what's happened, the problem is, and I think the reason that we're here is that our sex life has become very predictable and it's just, I mean it's nice, but it's not very exciting, it's not really erotic, it's, how do I say this, it's not dirty anymore
What? Friendly. It's very polite
Right, right, but I mean, I don't know what to do because it's like if I, I'm afraid to pretend to be someone else because he knows me so well, he's going to go, well who does she think she is or something like that, I don't know
It's like we've created these limitations that we can't, you know, cross this line and I don't know, but you know, maybe we're just really not as close as we think we are
Movies, television and books teach the myth that passionate love affairs are the ones that offer the greatest challenge or conflict. Comfortable, they say, doesn't even simmer, while living on the edge of disaster virtually smolders
Sometimes the very best, most emotionally intimate and supportive relationships are the first to become sexually stagnant. All the closeness that makes you feel so comforted and secure may also drain away the kind of tension and drama that most people have grown up to think of as sexy
Close couples often need to relearn how to blend affection and eroticism in their relationship, but turning up the heat should be done in stages, just a few degrees at a time, because it can be frightening to get too hot too fast. Remember, there's no reason to rush. You have a lifetime of love ahead of you
It's helpful to start by slowly reacquainting yourselves with each other's bodies. It could be too soon even to contemplate changing the way you make love. Begin instead at the beginning with your senses, pushing each beyond the limit of familiarity, taking sensual risks you've never imagined
Your own bath can offer a galaxy of newfound exquisite sensations. Rose petals help transform your everyday reality into something fresh and magical
Now that you're both feeling fully relaxed, try this experiment. First, tenderly cover your partner's eyes with a soft blindfold
Then slowly begin tracing the slopes and curves of her or his body with an assortment of distinctly textured items. You'll be her guide, introducing her to new unexpected sensations while she tests the limits of her trust in you
Although the sensations your partner is experiencing may be pleasurable, remember that for many men and women, it's frightening to be out of control, even momentarily. Changing safe, comfortable patterns in life or in lovemaking stirs unnatural fear
You need trust in one another and a willingness to risk that's created delicately over time
It's all right to be uncomfortable. You may even want to rip the blindfold away. But isn't it more interesting to give up control for a while and step lightly over the edge into the sensual erotic unknown
Discover for yourself that you can let go. Trust in your lover. Enjoy the sharp awakening of your senses, even as you hesitate
You may want to move into the bedroom now or make love where you are, but don't. Hold back. Instead, heighten your sensual exploration of one another's bodies
Enjoy the tension, the relief you sought from predictability and familiarity. Let yourself be startled, surprised. Allow yourself to surrender. Drift off. Move with your senses
Let yourself drift away on a cloud of heavenly sensation. Feel free to respond openly, verbally, to your sensual arousal
Tell each other what kind of touches bring you the most pleasure
Let yourself drift away on a cloud of heavenly sensation. Feel free to respond openly, verbally, to your sensual arousal
Now, move into the bedroom as you continue exploring your sensuality
Experience the thrill of an erotic interlude that continues not with ordinary sex, but with the reawakening of your sensuality
Discover that you can gently and ever so slowly stir one another's desire through the arc of your sensuality
Now, move into the bedroom as you continue exploring your sensuality
Now that you've decided to begin a love affair with your partner, you'll be embarking upon a thrilling romantic journey that can last a lifetime. As you set out, it may help to keep these thoughts in mind.
Time, reserved for the two of you alone, is the key to an everlasting romance. Your relationship first grew out of the special private hours you spent together. It still needs them, as flowers need water to continue blossoming.
Keep in mind the importance of sharing responsibility for preserving and planning your time. A love affair, if it is to flourish, requires two equally devoted partners.
The secret to making the most of your private moments lies in unleashing your creative imagination. Whether you've planned a full day or set aside one evening each week, make that time count.
Think about ways you can transform ordinary places and activities into extraordinary ones by adding a dose of inventiveness, humor, romance, or surprise. Remember that you're creating a new album of tender memories to inspire you for years to come.
Remember it's alright not to make love, too. Sometimes it's exciting to deliberately forgo lovemaking and concentrate instead on basking in the pleasures of your senses, celebrating the melange of taste, sound, scent, and non-genital touch.
Begin to catch hold of your sexy, lusty thoughts and images when they occur throughout the day. It's normal to have them. It's thrilling to acknowledge them. Seize the moment.
If you're willing to use your imagination to stretch your limits and open your heart, the magic of a long-lasting love affair can be yours. You can possess the best of two worlds, the passion and spice of an extramarital affair, along with the trust and intimacy of a deep, abiding commitment.
No matter how long you've been together, if you're ready to have a love affair with your partner, you may discover that your romance has only begun.